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LJ Idol IX - 8. Yes, and

"Yes, and" is a rule of improvisational theatre where "to build a scene, you have to accept. To build anything onstage, you have to accept what the other improviser initiates on stage. They say you're doctors—you're doctors. And then, you add to that: We're doctors and we're trapped in an ice cave." (Stephen Colbert)


I put my trust in people. Automatically, always. The default amount of trust everyone is due simply because they are human. Why would someone wish me ill? The idea is not comprehensible.

And the thing is, people sense it, this attitude, and do not. Wish me ill that is. Even ones you get warned about as being of a generally mean composition. It baffles me, what genuine desire to see the good in people first and foremost does to them. It as if they do not see the need to turn their other sides toward you or even forget they have them, nonsensical though this sounds. The wonderful and terrifying truth is that never once have I yet met anyone who would react otherwise.


I trust people, I do. A little, and more as time goes on, but there are few I trust a lot, and there are maybe two persons I trust completely.

You tell me, "Don't do this, I will". And I trust you to do so and I do not check on your progress. And in the mean time, I consider the consequences of your inaction and accept them as probable, and I am not surprised if we have to face them, not really.

You tell me, "Come visit for a day, we will drive you back at night". And I trust you, and I come and I do not fret about the time. And I don't tell you I know the schedule of the late night buses and have the number of a taxi service in my phone.

You tell me, "Come stay at my house for several days during your visit to my country". And I trust you, and I come. And I never tell you I have learned how to get into town from the airport or the train station even if you have offered me a lift. Or that I have researched the hotels in your town, or about that "just in case" booking (or two) that I have cancelled the day before my visit.

There is trust and there is blind trust, after all. And people, they muck up sometimes. I certainly do.

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furzicle
May. 7th, 2014 09:31 pm (UTC)
Interesting entry. I see a few typos, but I trust (!) you will find those. However, I will point a few out, just in case. This one I know you know: may be should be "maybe."

Your phrase, "You tell me, don't do this, I will." Quotes would be helpful here. Perhaps you could phrase it: You tell me, "Don't do this." But I will.

Your "come stay at mine" is a little awkward. You should probably say "come stay at my house."

Good luck with the entry. I always feel "sleeping on it" is a good idea. It will only get better.
kehlen_crow
May. 8th, 2014 04:38 pm (UTC)
Thank very much for taking the time to read this at once :). I already see at least one more typo, so I will comb through the rest of it.

And I appreciate it that you pointed out the awkward wording!
kehlen_crow
May. 8th, 2014 04:45 pm (UTC)
ConCrit is welcome.

Meta: This entry was first posted as friends-only because I need to sleep on it. It was written with difficulty, and turned out into something else in the process, so it was also a plea for opinions. For which I am grateful to furzicle.
The meta comment was initially included in the entry, and is now moved here.



Edited at 2014-05-08 04:54 pm (UTC)
solstice_singer
May. 8th, 2014 05:52 pm (UTC)
Trust is a difficult thing for many people, especially if they have been wronged in the past.
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 03:20 pm (UTC)
It is true, unfortunately.
reckless_blues
May. 9th, 2014 09:20 am (UTC)
I can relate to this entry. I trust everyone myself ... Not because I haven't lived a difficult life, but because I've learned that people are generally indifferent. No one will lift a finger to either help you or hurt you. And they've already done to me everything short of murder, I don't fear anything anymore. So I can pretty much go among them how I like. Though I prefer not to rely on them. That's a recipe for disaster. And people like you more if you provide for yourself.
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 03:46 pm (UTC)
It is very sad to hear that you don't fear because you have already looked those fears in the eye.

Thank you for saying this.
eternal_ot
May. 9th, 2014 02:32 pm (UTC)
This resonates with me a lot..I have learned and learned it a hard way and so it sometimes takes me time to trust...loved it! A nice read.:)
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 04:04 pm (UTC)
Thank you :)
millysdaughter
May. 9th, 2014 07:05 pm (UTC)
Trust but verify is a good policy.
Most people do not honestly wish to harm others, in my experience.
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 04:17 pm (UTC)
Neither do they in mine.

Thank you :)
halfshellvenus
May. 10th, 2014 06:56 am (UTC)
It sounds as if what you trust are people's good intentions, but with the knowledge that the actual results may fall short.

The contingency planning covers all cases, and it seems like a nice compromise, too.
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 04:24 pm (UTC)
Yes, that is true.

Thank you for the insightful comment :)
whipchick
May. 10th, 2014 05:33 pm (UTC)
This is really, really fascinating. I've done these things myself! I love how you make clear that you're trusting, but you're not a sucker.
kehlen_crow
May. 11th, 2014 04:28 pm (UTC)
Thank you :-)
livejournal
May. 10th, 2014 07:43 pm (UTC)
lj idol recommended reading week 8
rayaso
May. 10th, 2014 11:37 pm (UTC)
Trust is wonderful, but people still fall short even when we do not expect it. Good entry!
kehlen_crow
May. 11th, 2014 04:06 pm (UTC)
Yes, and the measures I take are not a guarantee, but they make me feel better "just in case".

Thank you!
roina_arwen
May. 11th, 2014 03:44 am (UTC)
I've done this too on occasion - it seems like a good precaution!
kehlen_crow
May. 11th, 2014 03:25 pm (UTC)
I does, even though I do not remember ever really needing it in the end :).

Thank you!
penpusher
May. 11th, 2014 08:52 pm (UTC)
Trust is most certainly one of the major lessons we learn as humans... we have to trust, right away, because as babies we have no other choice. We must trust that our parents/doctors/others will do what's right for us and care for us!

We trust the government will not do something that will bring harm to its citizens. It's a very difficult world in difficult times! We have to trust that people will act responsibly.

Thanks for this entry.
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 05:25 pm (UTC)
You're welcome.

Thank you for the thoughtful comment. :)
kagomeshuko
May. 11th, 2014 11:59 pm (UTC)
I try to trust people. It can be difficult when so many people don't come through and do what they promised they'd do, though.
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 05:38 pm (UTC)
Oh, yes.

It can also be difficult to do yourself what you want other to do in return, and be responsible that way.

Thank you :)
kajel
May. 12th, 2014 01:46 am (UTC)
Nicely done.
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 05:48 pm (UTC)
Thank you!
cheshire23
May. 12th, 2014 02:49 am (UTC)
I like your approach to trust.
kehlen_crow
May. 12th, 2014 06:02 pm (UTC)
Thank you :)
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